Picture this: Sicily..(lol) ok, my bedroom, Sunday night minutes to one: my mobile phone beeps. I wake from my semi-sleep and check it. *sweet dreams babes*. I smile. That’s kinda cute. It’s from a guy I went out on a date with on Saturday. I go back to sleep. Ten minutes later my ^%$# phone beeps again. I steups and sit up in the bed. *wish you were here with me* I steups HARD and crawl back under my covers.
A week passes. We exchange a few texts (including me bracing him for waking me up in the middle night) but nothing more. I see him around, we are pleasant but make no further plans to see each other. Then it happens again. At one AM again. *sweet dreams* I do not respond to them. I tell him I don’t reply to texts after 10 so. A few weeks later at around 9.30 I get *I want to see you, baby* Okay, reasonable hour but still an indecent proposal, … right?
Since then I’ve gotten a number of *good morning*, *have a great day!*, *You were just on my mind* and other such suitably friendly messages. In fact he only communicates via text these days. I don’t get it. 
It’s been many many months since that single date and tonight I got another *I want to see you baby* !!! If I ignore them he waits a while and starts up again. If I reply we will have a repartee but nothing will come of it. I am not understanding this lil game. Somebody please explain what is going on here.
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Quesition: Are you interested in the guy? If not I think he should know whether or not his texts are really being appreciated. Maybe he is not feeling you and is trying to gauge if you are rally into him.
Hi Stephanie.. first of all WELCOME!! don’t think I’ve see u before
secondly, u raise a good point.. a friend of mine who read this raised the same point.. she thinks I am intimidating and so he tries to make contact thru texts and she thinks I am sending mixed messages by responding sometimes and ignoring other times. HRRMMM.
I think I dont like texts.. get some balls and call me already. Maybe I am up for another date or something more! Texting is a cop out. I think. and yes.. I am / was interested in this guy.. thats why I went out with him in the first place!
Hmmmm. Spicey… to be honest dis not sounding too good. A guy that ONLY seems to communicate via text is suspicious goods. Because it might mean that communication via text is the only way he can really communicate without making his significant other suspicious. But if you know thats not the case then ah still think something wrong… especially with the hours he sending them… it kinda sounding like dis breddah trying to feel out whether you are booty call material or not.
Just texting is very suspicious. I would tell him fi cool it before yuh cool it fi him.
PS. I love the part about leggo a few steupse. YES! (high five)
@Complexity: You and dis high five… yuh turn Borat on mih?
mmhmm…di bwoi nuh good! in this day and age where romance is usually nowhere to be found and all this technology….textin doesn’t help this brotha’s case at all. if him a try fi sweet talk yuh, him might as well wait for an opportune time when he sees you to express his real feelings and allow you (an independent woman) to make up your own mind. men don’t want to feel like they’ve lost control especially in the dating scene. so what rude bwoi doing is trying to play up the psychological game of finding out when you’re sexually weak so he can set up the calendar for you. (i know i’m sounding like a conspiracy theorist, but it would be refreshing if the dude would just come out and tell you straight whats really good and be vulnerable)
No one is that intimidating…he’s just lazy…or horny, or can’t decide which….think u need to set this boy straight….
And I have a rule, if you wake me up at an indecent hour, you better be at my door prepared to do indecent things to me….if not, don’t bother…
Lady P where do you live…… that is an offer i can’t resist
I do it everynow again when I get bored and think of alternate “oppurtunities”, I always expect a reply. But frequently friendly texts seem like a waste a time. it would be like talking on msn and never getting a reply
Maybe he just likes you, and likes playing around. No harm in doing that. Or maybe, he’s insecure and a text message at random hours is a means for him to contact you without losing much, i dont know, “face”, if you dont respond in a fashion he would like.
Maybe his game is weak, and this is his strongest asset. Because obviously he’s got you thinking
Maybe the guy’s just cheap. Or maybe he’s shy. I thought girls like that type.
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Funny, I was JUST gonna blog about dating via text. LOL. I’m with you on the late night texts…Granny says only thing open after 12 is a pair of legs.
I think it’s one of the things that come with being modern. I’m like you: just frickin’ call me already, but some people really do communicate via better text.
I think if you like him, give a call after one of these text messages and ask him if he can’t pick up the phone.
Well I think him have nuff time and money fi waste on text messages! I prefer to just make the damn call, I hardy send texts.
boy you ladies killing me
@leon text messaging is not cheap. Its a “link me if you man no di dey” means of communication
Hehe. Hey I like texting. It’s especially handy when you’re at the hairdresser and see something that you want to share with yu sistren but of course cyan chat loud ’bout it. Hehe. But to get to the issue at hand. An occasional text ’sweet dreams babes’, ‘have a good day’ kinda thing is sweet, but as the primary means of communication, nuh-uh, it nah go work. Be a man and tek up di damn phone man. Steuups. Hey, how unnoo people spell it so strange? The way to spell hiss teeth is c-h-u-u-p-s.
i had one of those. he would text and text and text, and every time i would mention seeing him, he’d tell me he’d get back to me–and never would.
gela, i agree with you–steups is a trini ting. i spell it chupse. so do the rest of my bajan friends… lol
lol at ya’ll with the chuups steups.. i resorted to *kiss teeth* along time ago.. I’ve even found my self saying the damn thing instead of doing it..
uh.. Cut the guy of.. he’s an idiot..
LOL!! YOU GUYS CRACK ME UP FOR REAL!!!
steups. steupse, chuups, hiss teet. kiss teeth.. u get the idea!!
NO TO BOOTY TEXTS!!
he invited me out to dinner via text. WTF!?!
Welcome Ms. Complexity & JamSprint!! good to have u!!
u should just run him….tell him to ga long (go along about his business)…..lol
Hey Jammy, welcome.
but I guess the translation was for everyone else. GALANG yes!
I consider myself half Jamaican u know.. I understand patois